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Hey guys,

So I need a place to rant a little and this site is always good about offering advice and stuff on anything, so here goes.

I'm 24 and I have an 18 year old bro who is about to start his Senior year. Our dad is a crop duster and our parents own their a crop dusting service here by Lubbock, Tx. He's been in North Dakota working with dad for the past couple months since farmers aren't doing much with their crops here due to the drought. He called me today and told me that his golddigging gf is 6.5 months pregnant and she just told him...WTF?? She's just now telling him this? He said that she said she wanted to wait for him to get home before she told him, but she knew before he even left. They're both about to be Seniors in highschool and he has no idea how to care for a baby baby. She has a 16 year old sister who already has a 2 year old; her fam is excited; mine doesn't know. Our fam is very Christian/Conservative, so this won't go down well. I want to support my bro, but damn it's hard. Theyr'e selfish for this as our parents had plans that this will throw a wrench into.

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well his life is over. He`s going to have to learn quickly how to hide assets. They well seperate and it wont be good for anybody and especially not the kid. She will most likely end up with the kid whether she is fit or not to have it and I guarantee she isn`t, not at that age. I have friends my age(I am also 24 soon 25) that have had kids early and they are stuck where they are. There is almost no room to grow as a person.

If your family has money it`s a little different. I wish you the best. Sorry I can`t offer anything really positive but the facts are facts.

Shit like this makes me kind of want to get a vasectomy and get it reversed when I`M ready for a kid. Women are stupid selfish bitches. Not all but I haven`t met one.
 

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Sucks for sure. Get the parents involved ASAP. You're right this will make everything much harder. I also can't help but wonder if it's his since she waited so long to tell him. Other than that all I can say is try to be there for him. Oh yeah smack the crap out of him for being stupid
 

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Sucks for sure. Get the parents involved ASAP. You're right this will make everything much harder. I also can't help but wonder if it's his since she waited so long to tell him. Other than that all I can say is try to be there for him. Oh yeah smack the crap out of him for being stupid
this will solve nothing. He`s gotten himself in enough trouble already. His mind is problem going a mile a minute and probably not sleeping well as is. Support is what he needs.
 

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this will solve nothing. He`s gotten himself in enough trouble already. His mind is problem going a mile a minute and probably not sleeping well as is. Support is what he needs.
It's not meant for the 18 yro or to solve anything. More of a Brotherly love kind of thing for the older brother
 

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Oh man, not much can be done now. But my advice ( no offence to you/your brother) please do a DNA test. Make sure that kid is his. Once this had happened to someone i use to work with. His GF at the time got prego with a kid, she waited about 3-4 months before telling him. He was not ready to believe it was his kid, and turns out it wasn't lol. If she waited this long something has to be fishy... Everything else you gotta take it as it comes .. tell him to work cash only lol.. His life is pretty much reached the highest level off difficulty for his age.

PS: Do SMACK him few times over the head... Make sure he DOESN'T make the same mistake again with her or someone else...

GOOD LUCK BROTHA.. Kepp us informed as to what happens..
 

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well his life is over. He`s going to have to learn quickly how to hide assets. They well seperate and it wont be good for anybody and especially not the kid. She will most likely end up with the kid whether she is fit or not to have it and I guarantee she isn`t, not at that age. I have friends my age(I am also 24 soon 25) that have had kids early and they are stuck where they are. There is almost no room to grow as a person.

If your family has money it`s a little different. I wish you the best. Sorry I can`t offer anything really positive but the facts are facts.

Shit like this makes me kind of want to get a vasectomy and get it reversed when I`M ready for a kid. Women are stupid selfish bitches. Not all but I haven`t met one.
Yeah dude, I think she's a gold digger. Her fam sees the nice things that we have and this is her sure way into a good life. I hate to say that, but I believe it to be true. Our fams don't get a long either. They're all about taking a free ride and mine is all about working your butt off.

Sucks for sure. Get the parents involved ASAP. You're right this will make everything much harder. I also can't help but wonder if it's his since she waited so long to tell him. Other than that all I can say is try to be there for him. Oh yeah smack the crap out of him for being stupid
I wondered the same thing and asked him about it. He said he's sure it's his. I dk what her reason is for waiting so long, but it throws us into a huge bind. It'd be one thing for her to be a few weeks in bc that'd give us a good 8 months to prepare and wrap our heads around it. She could have this baby in a matter of a months time!
 

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Oh man, not much can be done now. But my advice ( no offence to you/your brother) please do a DNA test. Make sure that kid is his. Once this had happened to someone i use to work with. His GF at the time got prego with a kid, she waited about 3-4 months before telling him. He was not ready to believe it was his kid, and turns out it wasn't lol. If she waited this long something has to be fishy... Everything else you gotta take it as it comes .. tell him to work cash only lol.. His life is pretty much reached the highest level off difficulty for his age.

PS: Do SMACK him few times over the head... Make sure he DOESN'T make the same mistake again with her or someone else...

GOOD LUCK BROTHA.. Kepp us informed as to what happens..
I've def been pushing a DNA test on it as well. That'd be a definite relief because it does seem very fishy for her to wait so long. Cash only :+1: yeah, no toys or easy living for a good while.
 

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I would definately do the DNA test but hey it doesnt mean life is over even if its his. Lots of people go through this and things turn out great. Yes there will be added hardships for the family but no family escapes life un scathed by hard times. Children are a blessing and hey your brother will only be 36 when his baby is 18. There are advantages to that too. Im sorry about all of this but you guys can make the best of it. Especially for the babys sake.
 

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ZDawg, Whether or not your brother thinks for sure it's his baby,
Insist on a DNA test to remove ALL doubt.
If it is his, tell him "DO NOT MARRY HER" because of this.
It will lead to a life of resentment against her and a miserable life together.
Been there, done that. I'm 46.
Set up child support payments, remember to be fair, if this is your kid,
your actions now will come to light when it is older.
Be involved in the baby's life and be a good father.
He made a mistake but it's time to man up to his mistake and be a good father to his child. Be there for it and do not resent it for his mistake.

And lastly, START WEARING CONDOMS DUMBASS LOL.
 

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ZDawg, Whether or not your brother thinks for sure it's his baby,
Insist on a DNA test to remove ALL doubt.
If it is his, tell him "DO NOT MARRY HER" because of this.
It will lead to a life of resentment against her and a miserable life together.
Been there, done that. I'm 46.
Set up child support payments, remember to be fair, if this is your kid,
your actions now will come to light when it is older.
Be involved in the baby's life and be a good father.
He made a mistake but it's time to man up to his mistake and be a good father to his child. Be there for it and do not resent it for his mistake.

And lastly, START WEARING CONDOMS DUMBASS LOL.
:+1:

And don't believe that she will automatically get the kids. If he wants to be involved as a father then he should get 50/50 custody IMMEDIATELY.

I hate to boil this down to child support payments, but if he can get 50/50 he won't pay support, which will help him make better decisions in the future.
If a good portion of your check is going to a person who is a gold digger, then I can guarantee that it won't go for the kid. She will push for more and more,,and so will her parents.

I have no problem giving support to a CHILD...but I have seen too many times where the mom takes the cash and acts like it's never enough for the kid.

DNA test is a must, I don't care how "sure" he is. I'm sure he thought she wouldn't get pregnant either and we see how wise he was then. DNA test ASAP!!!!

DON'T marry this chick!!!
Get as many of his paternal rights as possible, and don't pay this vampire anything...

Man up and be the best father he can.,,,remember, it's not the kid's fault for anything the mother and her blood sucking family does. Love the kid...

That's all I got.
 

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A lot of good advice so far on here. DNA test hell yea and with a little luck it won't be his. And like H.R. said, if he marries her hes screwed. She is deceitful. A deceitful girl will drag a guy down, lie, manipulate, etc.. There are some good ones out there, and hold on to her if ya get one.:cool:
 

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ZDawg, Whether or not your brother thinks for sure it's his baby,
Insist on a DNA test to remove ALL doubt.
If it is his, tell him "DO NOT MARRY HER" because of this.
It will lead to a life of resentment against her and a miserable life together.
Been there, done that. I'm 46.
Set up child support payments, remember to be fair, if this is your kid,
your actions now will come to light when it is older.
Be involved in the baby's life and be a good father.
He made a mistake but it's time to man up to his mistake and be a good father to his child. Be there for it and do not resent it for his mistake.

And lastly, START WEARING CONDOMS DUMBASS LOL.
:+1:

And don't believe that she will automatically get the kids. If he wants to be involved as a father then he should get 50/50 custody IMMEDIATELY.

I hate to boil this down to child support payments, but if he can get 50/50 he won't pay support, which will help him make better decisions in the future.
If a good portion of your check is going to a person who is a gold digger, then I can guarantee that it won't go for the kid. She will push for more and more,,and so will her parents.

I have no problem giving support to a CHILD...but I have seen too many times where the mom takes the cash and acts like it's never enough for the kid.

DNA test is a must, I don't care how "sure" he is. I'm sure he thought she wouldn't get pregnant either and we see how wise he was then. DNA test ASAP!!!!

DON'T marry this chick!!!
Get as many of his paternal rights as possible, and don't pay this vampire anything...

Man up and be the best father he can.,,,remember, it's not the kid's fault for anything the mother and her blood sucking family does. Love the kid...

That's all I got.
I agree to all of the above. Thanks for all the advice guys! And of course the baby will be loved like nothing else; the fam just has to get over the initial shock of it all
 

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Here is something to look into also.
Instead of paying her money for child support.
He can buy the baby clothing, shoes, formula, diapers, etc...
Photocopy the reciept and give her the copy and write CHILD SUPPORT on it, and your original. Wouldn't hurt to have her sign and date it also if she is willing.
That way you don't have to give the baby moma money for her to blow.
You tell her to give you a list of stuff the baby needs and you buy it.
Just make sure you keep receipts to show the courts that you pay your part.
 

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ZDawg, Whether or not your brother thinks for sure it's his baby,
Insist on a DNA test to remove ALL doubt.
If it is his, tell him "DO NOT MARRY HER" because of this.
It will lead to a life of resentment against her and a miserable life together.
Been there, done that. I'm 46.
Set up child support payments, remember to be fair, if this is your kid,
your actions now will come to light when it is older.
Be involved in the baby's life and be a good father.
He made a mistake but it's time to man up to his mistake and be a good father to his child. Be there for it and do not resent it for his mistake.

And lastly, START WEARING CONDOMS DUMBASS LOL.
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this is good advice.
I would add that if your parents have money to help to your bro stay in school and get thru college, make him do it. I have old high school buddies who still work at Hormel, and I have buddies who are bank managers now. They all had kids around 18-19. The difference was who stuck it out to get a degree and a good job.
Oh and if he ever wants to have any fun money he better learn how to do side jobs for cash!
 

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Here is something to look into also.
Instead of paying her money for child support.
He can buy the baby clothing, shoes, formula, diapers, etc...
Photocopy the reciept and give her the copy and write CHILD SUPPORT on it, and your original. Wouldn't hurt to have her sign and date it also if she is willing.
That way you don't have to give the baby moma money for her to blow.
You tell her to give you a list of stuff the baby needs and you buy it.
Just make sure you keep receipts to show the courts that you pay your part.
:+2:

Baby 1st....Baby momma can go [email protected] off
 

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I just spent like 10 min putting in my $.02, but my phone erased it all and I'm not gonna do it again, so here's what I have to say...
A child is a blessing, not a burden, treat it as such, for you never know, this could change them for the better...a blessing in disguise...
Show your support for her and give her the benefit of the doubt, this surely isn't easy for her either...

I had a child at 19...it hasn't always been easy, but it changed my priorities, went back to college, graduated with a 4.0 (didn't even graduate high school) got an amazing job, and now doing really cool stuff in the military and am able to provide my fam with everything they they need and most stuff they want...baby mama and I have have also been married almost 9 years...
Now I may be one of those exceptions, but it doesn't always turn out shitty Like others here seem to think is inevitable...
 

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I just spent like 10 min putting in my $.02, but my phone erased it all and I'm not gonna do it again, so here's what I have to say...
A child is a blessing, not a burden, treat it as such, for you never know, this could change them for the better...a blessing in disguise...
Show your support for her and give her the benefit of the doubt, this surely isn't easy for her either...

I had a child at 19...it hasn't always been easy, but it changed my priorities, went back to college, graduated with a 4.0 (didn't even graduate high school) got an amazing job, and now doing really cool stuff in the military and am able to provide my fam with everything they they need and most stuff they want...baby mama and I have have also been married almost 9 years...
Now I may be one of those exceptions, but it doesn't always turn out shitty Like others here seem to think is inevitable...
Bro, think about it...
This girl waited till she was 6 1/2 months pregnant to tell him.

If that doesn't say SHADY, I don't know what does.
It's nice to hold out hope for a good woman,
But out of the gate, she's fucking up from word GO.
You cannot just openly trust women and hope for the best.
Trust is a MAJOR factor and he does not have that with someone
who waits almost 7 months to say, Oh, by the way, I'm pregnant.
 
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