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So I just lost a friend to a motorcycle crash day before yesterday. This really hit me hard and it's making me think about giving up riding. This is so hard because I love riding and I know my friend would never want me to give this up because of what happened to him. He was an incredible rider and this makes me think how easily you can lose your life with one wrong move. The last thing I want to do is leave my wife and 2 kids here alone. Has anyone else had these feelings after losing a friend to a crash?
 

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I think what bothers me about it is had he been in a car in the same type of crash he would probably still be alive. I understand what you're saying though, I guess it just makes me think how dangerous riding can be. I almost feel selfish for doing it when I have a family to think of. Of course it doesn't help that one of my riding buddies is gone now. Everytime I would do something to the bike or something related to riding he would be that first person I would be talking to about it. It sucks knowing he's not there to bullshit with anymore or bounce ideas off of. He was the one I did my first track day with. I guess I just feel like something's missing when it comes to riding now.
 

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Everything you do is a risk and everyday you cheat death somehow, I had a friend that could ride anything with two wheels blindfolded and he died at a red light. Shit happens and when it's your time it's your time, no point in trying to control it. This is just my opinion though. Sorry to hear about your friend
 

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my condolences... i had a wife and two kids when i started riding street full time.. and i sure as hell did research on crash statistics to give my self the best fighting chance i could... this is always so sad to hear and i can't imagine what thoughts must be rolling through your head right now... if anything, i think you should keep riding and do it in his memory... wear your helmet, keep the rubber side down, and drive defensively... i know this advice sounds kinda shallow, but i'm just not sure what else to tell you... i do think however, that we can't let circumstances rule our lives or let them define who we are... i just hope that it wasn't his fault that this happened... i know that that's not the point... but i would feel even worse about this if he died doing 130 on a highway wearing shorts, flip flops and a tank top... again, i'm so so sorry to hear this about someone who was close to you... we're all here for you if you need to talk, and of course, if you do decide to hang up your helmet for good, we'll support you in that decision as well...
 

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Sorry about your friend Brian. Feel for his family too. We do engage in a very dangerous activity, I thought about quitting riding too when I was nearly killed in a wreck. I wouldn't blame you one bit for thinking of family first. May your friend RIP. :rip:
 

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Sorry to hear.

But ask yourself what your friend would do if it would have been you. Do you think he would stop riding or would he think of you everytime he did a wheelie.
 

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No one can make that decision for you. You have to come to terms with what happened and take some time to think about you and your life and what you wnt. You need to mourn your friend during that time also. The accident is so fresh in your mind right now, it's consuming and overwhelming you.

We all take risks in life. Some greater than others. Every time we swing a leg over the bike and turn the key, we take a risk. Every time we cross a crowded street, get on a plane, swim in the ocean, or anything else, we take a risk. Only you will know what level of risk your comfortable with going forward. But with risk, comes reward. If we didn't love it and appreciate the risks involved, we wouldn't do it. I think your friend recognized that.

One of two things will happen now. You'll either become a better, more responsible rider because of this, or you'll quit doing it. Only you will know what's right for YOU. And in time, you'll understand and figure the answer out.

Sorry to hear of the loss of your friend. Truly sad. Hope you find peace soon. RIP
 

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Thank you everyone for the kind words and advice. I think I'm going to park the bike for awhile and see how I feel about this after some time goes by. He wasn't being stupid and he always wore gear. Some of the details on how this happened aren't clear. I'm hoping we find more out soon.
 

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I am going to a funeral of my buddy that just got killed in a bike crash, 2 friends quit riding because of it, many more learned from it, that's life.
 

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No one can make that decision for you. You have to come to terms with what happened and take some time to think about you and your life and what you wnt. You need to mourn your friend during that time also. The accident is so fresh in your mind right now, it's consuming and overwhelming you.

We all take risks in life. Some greater than others. Every time we swing a leg over the bike and turn the key, we take a risk. Every time we cross a crowded street, get on a plane, swim in the ocean, or anything else, we take a risk. Only you will know what level of risk your comfortable with going forward. But with risk, comes reward. If we didn't love it and appreciate the risks involved, we wouldn't do it. I think your friend recognized that.

One of two things will happen now. You'll either become a better, more responsible rider because of this, or you'll quit doing it. Only you will know what's right for YOU. And in time, you'll understand and figure the answer out.

Sorry to hear of the loss of your friend. Truly sad. Hope you find peace soon. RIP
:+1:00000000000 to this. Absolute truth in this post.

I am really sorry to hear about what happened to your friend. It must just be absolutely shitty, but try to keep chin up about the situation as best as you can.
 

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No one can make that decision for you. You have to come to terms with what happened and take some time to think about you and your life and what you wnt. You need to mourn your friend during that time also. The accident is so fresh in your mind right now, it's consuming and overwhelming you.

We all take risks in life. Some greater than others. Every time we swing a leg over the bike and turn the key, we take a risk. Every time we cross a crowded street, get on a plane, swim in the ocean, or anything else, we take a risk. Only you will know what level of risk your comfortable with going forward. But with risk, comes reward. If we didn't love it and appreciate the risks involved, we wouldn't do it. I think your friend recognized that.

One of two things will happen now. You'll either become a better, more responsible rider because of this, or you'll quit doing it. Only you will know what's right for YOU. And in time, you'll understand and figure the answer out.

Sorry to hear of the loss of your friend. Truly sad. Hope you find peace soon. RIP
Brilliant post. 100% as above.

I have lost 1 friend so far to a motorcycle. At the end of the day we know the risks, it is a choice we make because for us bikers, the pros outweigh the cons (or so we think).

I hope you can get past this situation, and hope you choose to carry on. For me and my biker buddies I can safely say that our good friend would be mortified if we gave up because of his accident.

RIP to your friend.
 

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Sorry to hear about your mate Brian.My condolences.
Skydork summed it up pretty good!!

I lost my best mate to a riding accident almost 10 years ago now.
When I went to see his parents,the first thing his Father said to me was "now I hope you'll sell your bike immediately",to which I replied,"do you think Paul would have wanted me to stop riding".He answered no,without hesitation.
Take some time,suck it all up.

Every day I think about my mate,and when I turn the key,I almost feel like he's with me every time I ride.
 

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i feel your pain...had a good riding partner that passed a few years back.
maybe you should consider putting the bike on the track only?...takes the likeliness that you will die out of the equation.
 

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Really sorry Brian. My thoughts and prayers are with you and the others left behind. I can totally understand your thoughts, feelings and especially concerns about leaving behind your family if something were to happen to you. Give yourself some time to mourn, to heal and to think about it. Theres no question that what we love is a dangerous thing and about the best thing we can do is to always try and stack the odds in our favour every time we ride. Still theres no promises with anything in life. Best of luck to ya.
 

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I've kept riding since the birth of my daughter 4 years ago, mainly because part of my job as a parent is to set the kind of example I think she requires. Part of that is a willingness to take risks in life. My greatest achievements have all had some level of risk attached, whether it's been a health risk or something else. And some of my biggest regrets are the times I chose to play it safe and not take my chances. In fact, the older and wiser I get, the more risks I tend to take. I don't want my daughter tiptoeing through life and regretting wasted opportunities like I have. What is that saying...something about I refuse to walk carefully through life only to arrive safely at my death...something like that.
 

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:rip:

My condolences to his family and friends. Take sometime and really think about everything in ur life. Don't make any rash decisions.:eek:ccasion1
 

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So sorry for your loss, brian. And as far as your concerns, they definately aren't without merit and make absolute sense. I think about the same thing for the same reasons all the time. I have a hard time thinking someone might actually say at my funeral one day, "Well at least he died doing what he loved". Well while that's true to an extent, i wouldn't trade a lifetime of riding for one day with my family. As of today, i still keep bikes and ride. I may wake up tomorrow and sell them both. I'd miss it, and in a bad way, but my life would be no less without motorcycles. In the end, go with your heart and gut feelings. I'd suggest just parking it a while before i sold it though.
 
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