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Hey a buddy called me today and he was pissed.Yesterday was his 4year anniversary and him and his wife went out for a movie and dinner.Well i guess on the way home they were talking and he made a joking comment about something that she freaked out about before they were together(Like 2months).And she dropped a bomb and said that "was the only thing i did"



Story is that she was dating a guy and she was waiting for her apartment to get done so she could move in,so she stayed with him and his roomate at his roommates house.Well one day when the boyfriend was gone the roomate took a shower and came out of the shower with his towel on and she was in the bedroom and the guy walked in and they started to talk,Well she told my partner that the guy started to talk in a sexual way and pulled the towel down,she said she freaked out started yelling at him and pushed him out the room and locked the door.

My partner didn't think nothing of it cuz he though the dude was a piece of work for doing something like that(I told him that there has to be more to the story then that)

And I guess there was now 4 years later on there way home he said they were laughing and having a good time and were talking about past things and he said "Just like when u sucked that dude dick"and thats when she said that was the only thing she did.

Well he flipped out and they got in a huge fight and how he say's he can't trust her.

So he calls me and im trying to clam him down and his wife is calling mine,and she's upset and thinks that he shouldn't be mad it happened before him.

Well my partner see's it another way.I told him it was before him so don't sweat it ,but he's stuck on her lying to him when she didn't need to.And i guess she has lied before about other small things before.I said let it go cuz she married u(but he don't want to hear that).Yeah the other problem is that i guess they all hang out at the same track(dragracing).I see how his wife is with him and i told him that that woman loves u and just leave it alone,but he's big on respect and he feel's she disrespected him
 

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well its hard enough to trust people as it is but when your WIFE starts lying to you who can you trust i would be pissed just like he is i would get over it but @ the same time i wouldnt 100% trust her i would always have it in my mind that she COULD be lying
 

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Tell your buddy to chill out. Women keep alot of crap about their past quiet because they assume a guy doesn't want to hear that....And they are 100% right. The same way I don't tell my wife about this one and that one, she keeps shut.

Guys love to have a super star wife in bed, but act like like teenagers when the realize ANOTHER guy invested time in teaching her that thing that she does.

I agree, not smooth on her part for telling him that, but now, your buddy needs to man up and let it go. If there is alot of other crap going on between them, get a divorce, ruin your marriage, mary a virgin, whatever. He needs to just say this sucks (no pun intended), and move on.

Hating on the other guy for getting blown by your wife is pretty stupid. He was just being a dude, and it was a long time ago.

For the record, alot of men who claim to be really big on "respect", in actuality have a lot of problems with their own insecurities.

I'm gonna go now and teach my wife something new.....
 

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For the record, alot of men who claim to be really big on "respect", in actuality have a lot of problems with their own insecurities.
My thoughts exactly.

She lied, so what. It probably wasn't the first time, and it probably won't be the last. Have him look you in the eye and tell you that he has NEVER lied to her. Bet it won't happen. People keep secrets, thats just human nature.

My wife and I don't talk about stuff that happened before us. Whats the point? We've been faithful to each other since we've met (at least that's what she tells me:dontknow:), and it's been a good 7 years. No reason to ruin it with some petty jeolousy about something that happened years ago. We'd be throwing away a lot of good times over one little incident, and that just doesn't make sense.

Tell your buddy to grow up. this is highschool drama type stuff.
 

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Tell your buddy to chill out. Women keep alot of crap about their past quiet because they assume a guy doesn't want to hear that....And they are 100% right. The same way I don't tell my wife about this one and that one, she keeps shut.

Guys love to have a super star wife in bed, but act like like teenagers when the realize ANOTHER guy invested time in teaching her that thing that she does.

I agree, not smooth on her part for telling him that, but now, your buddy needs to man up and let it go. If there is alot of other crap going on between them, get a divorce, ruin your marriage, mary a virgin, whatever. He needs to just say this sucks (no pun intended), and move on.

Hating on the other guy for getting blown by your wife is pretty stupid. He was just being a dude, and it was a long time ago.

For the record, alot of men who claim to be really big on "respect", in actuality have a lot of problems with their own insecurities.

I'm gonna go now and teach my wife something new.....
I agree women keep a lot and so do men. Just last night I was having a conversation my my girl and see told me somethings that I did not know. I took them with a grain of salt because it was before me and I know she loves me. I feel I can still trust her but there will always be new things you learn. I do think that it is important to be up front though. Just remember we ALL have things about us that no one knows.
 

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Tell your buddy to chill out. Women keep alot of crap about their past quiet because they assume a guy doesn't want to hear that....And they are 100% right. The same way I don't tell my wife about this one and that one, she keeps shut.

Guys love to have a super star wife in bed, but act like like teenagers when the realize ANOTHER guy invested time in teaching her that thing that she does.

I agree, not smooth on her part for telling him that, but now, your buddy needs to man up and let it go. If there is alot of other crap going on between them, get a divorce, ruin your marriage, mary a virgin, whatever. He needs to just say this sucks (no pun intended), and move on.

Hating on the other guy for getting blown by your wife is pretty stupid. He was just being a dude, and it was a long time ago.

For the record, alot of men who claim to be really big on "respect", in actuality have a lot of problems with their own insecurities.

I'm gonna go now and teach my wife something new.....
Hey i agree with u on everything except the Respect thing.So if someone was to do something to u that u though was disrespectful would that mean that u are insecure,no it means that what they did in your eyes is wrong.Like i said i see them together and she does everything for him.From what i get he isn't mad about what she did before him,just mad that at the begin when they talked about everything she lied,(I told him she probably told u that so u wouldn't think bad of her).My wife has been talking to her and she told me that she feels like she lost her best friend,I just don't know what to say to him to get him to see "Just blow:mrgreen:it off" J/k
 

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he needs to get on with life, she had a life before him and that is that. if he wants a virgin or nun he should of married one. i know my old lady was no angel and neither was i but we're together now 5.5yrs and thats all that matters
 

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tell your buddy to chill out. Women keep alot of crap about their past quiet because they assume a guy doesn't want to hear that....and they are 100% right. The same way i don't tell my wife about this one and that one, she keeps shut.

Guys love to have a super star wife in bed, but act like like teenagers when the realize another guy invested time in teaching her that thing that she does.

I agree, not smooth on her part for telling him that, but now, your buddy needs to man up and let it go. If there is alot of other crap going on between them, get a divorce, ruin your marriage, mary a virgin, whatever. He needs to just say this sucks (no pun intended), and move on.

Hating on the other guy for getting blown by your wife is pretty stupid. He was just being a dude, and it was a long time ago.

For the record, alot of men who claim to be really big on "respect", in actuality have a lot of problems with their own insecurities.

I'm gonna go now and teach my wife something new.....

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well its hard enough to trust people as it is but when your WIFE starts lying to you who can you trust i would be pissed just like he is i would get over it but @ the same time i wouldnt 100% trust her i would always have it in my mind that she COULD be lying
:+1: or :+2:

I would say that once you have the doubt it will drive you crazy!!! IMO, consider the marrage moving to an end if he can't let it go. Without trust you don't have anything. doubt leads to jealousy, which leads to thoughts of violence....
 

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Hey i agree with u on everything except the Respect thing.So if someone was to do something to u that u though was disrespectful would that mean that u are insecure,no it means that what they did in your eyes is wrong.Like i said i see them together and she does everything for him.
I'm just saying that some people use the term "respect" as a way to get pissed off about insecurities. Growing up, I saw too many guys ruining their lives over "respect".

If I'm at Burger King and some guy calls me a Fag, I'll analyze the situation and likely walk away with my burger and keep my gun in the holster. I wouldn't feel threatened by some little dip shit mouthing off, so who gives a shit. If I were some insecure guy I might actually engage an idiot like that and ruin my awesome life, because I gave a shit about what a moron and the BK crew thought?

It may not make perfect sense, but it does to me. It's kind of like watching my pitbull wag his tale while a little dog chews on his face. He just doesn't feel challenged.

Your buddy sounds like he is more "disrespected" about the wife blowing some dude and now having to see this guy, rather than that his wife simply lied to him. What you think?:dontknow:
 

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to me like yer buddy needs to be careful what he asks for...we all do on some level, and btw, who hasn`t gotten blown in a previous relationship?...keyword here = previous...get f`n over it...IMHO.
 

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hhahaha your buddy is a jealous ass pussy. that's why she kept it from him all this time because she knew he couldn't handle the truth.

she should leave your psycho friend because he'll probably end up locking her in the basement from now on. he'll constantly hound her when she's not by his side, and he'll never let this go. he'll constantly bring it up and throw it in her face

your friend is loser. tell him to die.
 

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hhahaha your buddy is a jealous ass pussy. that's why she kept it from him all this time because she knew he couldn't handle the truth.

she should leave your psycho friend because he'll probably end up locking her in the basement from now on. he'll constantly hound her when she's not by his side, and he'll never let this go. he'll constantly bring it up and throw it in her face

your friend is loser. tell him to die.
:+1: What a Jackass. Your buddy brings up some old shit and then gets pissed cause he finds out the truth. Dude needs to grow up and learn to leave stuff like that alone cause nothing good can ever come from it.
 

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your friend is loser. tell him to die.
That was awesomely brutal and to the point.

You should be a psychologist:crackup:

better yet, one of those guys that answers the phone for the suicide hotlines.
 

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Like every 1 said "it's before his time" get over it or get out...I don't ask my wife about her past and she returns the favor..If I revisit my past , it's in my head..no shearing..I always tell her..ask me no questions and I'll tell you no lies..I'm no saint but I never did her wrong..
 
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